If you want to save your marriage, then you are brave. A whole lot of marriages have ended in shambles because the parties involved have been too cowardly to do all that can be done to save the marriage. Although it takes two to tango, your input as a member of this union can go a long way in helping you save your marriage from hitting the rocks.
Here are a few tips that can help you in saving your marriage
• Arguments will not save your marriage neither will fights do so let those away as well as all forms of bitterness. Retreat and analyze your marriage. Has it been good? Or has it been full of troubles? Was there a time you thought your marriage was from heaven? Is heading back to hell now? Were you giving in too much or were you expecting too much from your spouse? Were you too proud to say sorry when you should or was it your spouse? There are enough questions to ask, please ask them and try as much as possible to provide sincere answers to the questions.
• Your answers will help you see the strengths of your spouse. I believe all spouses have great attitudes even though there are occasional flaws in our behaviors. Dwell so much on your spouse’s strengths and the things you love about him or her. It could be the gentle smile or the compassion, you do not need too much to get the love flowing.
• Silence will not help your marriage. Be prepared to dialogue with your spouse. Call him or her up a dialogue while you discuss your findings. Be brave enough to say sorry for your own faults and make sure you mean this. Make sure you do not allow your dialogue turn into arguments. Try as much as possible to be constructive and positive with your words. Most of the times, your marriage is saved at this point. But if your spouse is still bitter, give him or her some time more.
• You can hold on for a while before fixing up a date again with your spouse. This time, he or she should have had a deep thought on your last conversation. You can be kind enough to bring a flower with you this time. That alone works miracles.
You can save your marriage today, forget about the odds. All it takes is being brave to face the problems, I am sure you will overcome.
