Parenting Advices And Tips For Today
On many occasions, with the arrival of adolescence mothers and many fathers tend to relax the control over their children because they consider that this is no longer as necessary as when they were younger. However, like affection, the establishment of limits continues to be very important during adolescence, and when these are missing, it is likely that boys and girls feel disoriented and think that their parents are no longer interested in them. On the other hand, the absence of control, standards and limits, is closely related to the emergence of some behavior problems such as anti-social and criminal behavior or the abusive consumption of drugs and alcohol. Here are some suggestions on rules and limits.
1. The limits must be clear, reasoned and justified
It is very important that we impose not authoritatively the boundaries and norms that regulate family life and the behavior of our children, both at home and outside. You should talk to them, know their point of view, explain the reasons for a particular rule, and change it when we are convinced that it is unfair. Involving children in the decision-making regarding the limits does not mean to surrender parental authority, but it will be a way to recognize that they are growing and maturing, and that they have the right to participate in decisions that affect them.
2. We must be flexible
You have to adjust the rules and limits to the needs and capabilities of your children as they are becoming older. … Continue Reading ...